177. Letting Go of Letting Go

The art 

Of letting go


Letting go

Of letting go. 

Each time

We make peace

With losing you

You seem 

To make peace

With staying. 

This new serenity 

In you,

A mirror 

Of our own.

Set free

In our hearts

And minds,

Your vitality

—Alert, calmer

And eating well—


Us to this present.


Us to be present

With you



The Poetry of Dementia is an ongoing project to share my family’s journey with my mother’s illness as a year of moments. We do not know whether my mother will live a full year—or perhaps she’ll live longer. Her dementia has been a bittersweet and beautiful journey that has already taken us places we never imagined. Loving and caring for her at home has fundamentally changed each of us, and daily reminds us to live in the present with love, trust and patience. Click here to read from the beginning.