173. Consequences

There are consequences

To caregiving. 

I accompanied 

Your husband

To the doctor’s today.

Four years

Of bending, 

Twisting

And lifting you 

Up

Out of bed;

Lowering you 

Down 

To sit,

Then raising you 

Again—

There are consequences

To caregiving. 

The doctor ordered

Rest—

An impossible request. 

The Poetry of Dementia is an ongoing project to share my family’s journey with my mother’s illness as a year of moments. We do not know whether my mother will live a full year—or perhaps she’ll live longer. Her dementia has been a bittersweet and beautiful journey that has already taken us places we never imagined. Loving and caring for her at home has fundamentally changed each of us, and daily reminds us to live in the present with love, trust and patience. Click here to read from the beginning.