140. Your Example

You took issue 

With my independent spirit—

A quality I learned from you

Who married 

Fifty-seven years ago 


The man you chose,

Despite your father

Saying no.

He told your husband

He wasn’t good enough

And pointed out his flaws.

A terrible student

With a dubious reputation

And no money to his name,

He assumed he’d bring you only

Heartbreak and shame. 


And sure of yourself

You chose instead 

To live your own way,

That day and every day. 

To follow your heart—

Until death do you part. 

The Poetry of Dementia is an ongoing project to share my family’s journey with my mother’s illness as a year of moments. We do not know whether my mother will live a full year—or perhaps she’ll live longer. Her dementia has been a bittersweet and beautiful journey that has already taken us places we never imagined. Loving and caring for her at home has fundamentally changed each of us, and daily reminds us to live in the present with love, trust and patience. Click here to read from the beginning.

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