113. Learning New Skills

I spent the morning

Giving your husband

Cooking lessons

Over the ipad.

A friend is coming

For lunch

And he is making 

A quiche.

We’ve been working

A couple of years now

On his cooking skills.

Before your illness

He’d never cooked,

Done laundry

Paid bills

Or shopped.

He’d never 

Changed diapers

Or a bed.

Now he does everything.

Some things better

Than others.

I heard him tell you

A few nights ago

How good the salmon was

Enticing you to try it.

When I asked him

About it

He told me the truth—

“It’s awful;

It’s barely edible.

I am such a lousy cook.

I have a special recipe

For screwing things up

And it works every time.”

The Poetry of Dementia is an ongoing project to share my family’s journey with my mother’s illness as a year of moments. We do not know whether my mother will live a full year—or perhaps she’ll live longer. Her dementia has been a bittersweet and beautiful journey that has already taken us places we never imagined. Loving and caring for her at home has fundamentally changed each of us, and daily reminds us to live in the present with love, trust and patience. Click here to read from the beginning.