106. Thank You for Asking

Your husband 

Gives you a choice;

Your friends 

Have invited you 

To dinner.

He asks 

If you prefer

To go to their home

Or have them 

Come to you.

You do not

Express a preference,

Only your approval

At being considered—

“You better be glad

You asked me

Or I would have

Bopped you one.” 

You’e right,

It is always nice

To be 



The Poetry of Dementia is an ongoing project to share my family’s journey with my mother’s illness as a year of moments. We do not know whether my mother will live a full year—or perhaps she’ll live longer. Her dementia has been a bittersweet and beautiful journey that has already taken us places we never imagined. Loving and caring for her at home has fundamentally changed each of us, and daily reminds us to live in the present with love, trust and patience. Click here to read from the beginning.